So who's going to answer the question?
About why the emphasis on a person's sexual orientation as a primary qualifier?
They want to have sex with them? -I think that was Merlin quoting Bobby, if I remember the posts from above.
Is that a learned behavior, wanting to know someone else's 'sexual orientation', is it another category of conformity? People in Europe aren't preoccupied with it(like how people as Hatches says used to just ask if the club was fun)because they all fuck everybody all over the place all the time and everybody knows all about it -and yes that is a wild generalization but just as a way to characterize the whole different social orientation-! It is not a cultural difference because culturally people don't practice sex in any markedly different way as far as the acts themselves are concerned, I mean sex there isn't, like, driving your car in to somebody.
Personally, having myself defined by others as a matter of habit, by who I fuck and what kinds of things I do with who I fuck that are in part biologically determined because of their gender, is such a rountine of subordinations I find it a repellant false aggression whenever it arises, anywhere, anytime. So I generally comport myself in a way to dampen and delimit such efforts just as such stigmatizing seeks to dampen and delimit what I am as a living person.
But I think to have being gay radically reduced to a term that initiates conflict is of course a form of violence.
Sexual superstitions.
Since a turning point in the 1960's,observing the following slight transformations in the social need to inspect and quantify the sexuality of every citizen, it can be really fucking hard to have patience. (shrugs)
Think of how being a metrosexual kind of has the status being an independent in a two party democracy has. In this society a person's identity has a market value and political implications before anything else. How better to irrevocably program this than to base that market value and those political implications right on one's very preferences for biological gratification?
The sexual acts that provide the greatest level of gratification you can possibly experience are what determine how you participate in pre-scheduled mass emotions. In the end there is no morality to this at all besides that of a phoney juridical public inspection.
I don't know what good it does us, collectively, whether the news personality is gay. And just wanting to know, well, that's a whole other topic let's not get started on. Just safe to say knowing if someone is gay isn't going to provide anyone with the undisturbed bliss of being back in the womb.
Sorry to drag on for so long. I'm heading over to peep at what Anna Nicole posted in "Real Sex Stories" now.