deedee - I moved here for the same reason you did and hey! I was moved to jump in, and help stir the pot myself. Keep going out; your presence is as vital as the ones throwing the party. Come introduce yourself - come out to Homocorps at CBGB's on Dec. 7 for some GREAT alternative music and party people. Check out Vulgaras.
You may want to contact TonyaKnudsen - one of the most energetic and enthusiastic people on the Motherboards (see Artmaker); she's a tigress when it comes to collaboration.