Not really a goth party goer myself, I just had to add my humble opinion here. Whenever I start to grow weary of the choices that are given me in New York, I remember what life was like in Ohio, and suddenly I kiss the earth in gratitude that I live here. I always find more and more great things to go to (so much in fact, that i gave up my day job to produce parties and events)- and find that when I find that something is lacking, I try to fill the gap myself by creating it. Although I agree that this is not a solution for everybody.
I am happy to be a party of these boards, too!