Here is a sad sad tale.
It's not exactly the same situation but it's close (and true).
Say that you were a brilliant dancer and performer and wore incredibly pretty pretty dresses all your life.
The biggest designers in the world designed costumes and dresses just for you for decades.
Over your long life you collected hundreds of pretty dresses.
Many of them priceless museum pieces.
When you died, museums all over the world coveted your pretty dresses and costumes and wanted to display them for the world to enjoy.
Especially The Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York.
But being gay, you had absolutely control when your evil 80 year old sister from some God forsaken backwater state who you had not even spoken to in 50 years took over your possessions.
No matter how many people pleaded with your ugly sister to let museums have these priceless pretty dresses she was hell bent on destroying them.
She wanted no evidence that her brother EVER wore a dress.
She destroyed the pretty dresses.
Now say that you had a gay lover for fifty years (she didn't but let's say that she did).
This person would be totally powerless to stop your evil sister. Even though your lover of fifty years knows that you would love to have your pretty dresses enjoyed by the world in a museum he would be powerless to stop her.
I think that maybe you can relate to that totally true story Midge and see that it's really about legal rights.
Imagine Midge, this pretty dress is one of the many pretty dresses that was destroyed by an ugly sister who could never be as beautiful.
